Lee Anderson Coaching

Life Skills Coach

Lived Experience Public Speaker

About Lee

“ I was brought up to believe men don’t talk about their struggles we just get on with being whoever we’re needed to be and show up in that version”

  • I was one of the people. I lost my way in life ignoring my feelings, believing my negative thoughts and being held hostage by my past. There were so many times I could have reach out but I choose not to, I was brought up to believe men don’t talk about their struggles we just get on with being whoever we needed to be and show up in that version.

    For years I felt trapped in a version of myself I didn’t recognise and I couldn’t find a way out. Work was a good place to hide, I used alcohol to forget and drugs to escape the pain, anger and loneliness I felt inside.

    Constant feelings of anxiety or lack of motivation, feeling worthless or comparing myself negatively to others became triggers that contributed to how low and miserable I was already feeling. Suffering felt familiar, and not being here anymore was constantly on my mind.

    I tried to take my own life twice, but didn’t tell anyone until after I had a mental breakdown because I was ashamed and embarrassed to talk about it or ask for help. I was good at pretended I was fine.

    I got help through therapy and counselling to talk through my issues, I had to start giving myself what I needed and making me a priority. I had to hold myself accountable, get my life together and sort my shit out.

    Giving up alcohol and drugs were huge life changing achievements, I’m better equipped to deal with the pressures of life, my mental health is a priority and a great indicator to how I’m looking after myself.

    When I started talking my life started changing. I was able to understand what I wanted, how I felt, what I needed, who I was and who I wanted to become. It was hard at first, I couldn’t do it all on my own I needed help challenging the beliefs and behaviours holding me back from becoming a better version of myself.

    Opening up and talking has helped me achieve things personally and professionally that I’m very proud of. I have my own life coaching practice, moved to a new country and live a good life. I still mess up, I still get things wrong, I have down days, I struggle with life and get frustrated.

    I have a different perspective on life, I’ve gone from trying to end my own life to becoming mentally, emotionally and physically resilient to deal with life’s challenges.

    Progress happens when you show up and do the work in the right areas.

Do you want to:

• Be noticed, heard and appreciated.

• Build confidence and develop yourself.

• Break destructive cycles of behaviour. 

• Get out of your own head.

• Create positive routines and habits. 

• Look after your mental health. 

• Put yourself first without feeling guilty.

• Be honest with your emotions and feelings. 

• Become a better man.

The Mission

The mission is to help you achieve more than you limit yourself to believe, to break the learned cycles of behaviour preventing you from becoming the man you know is inside.

My aim is to help you identify what's holding you back, explore unhealthy habits and provide you with the tools and techniques to better equip you to become that man.

We'll develop your self-awareness, implement healthy boundaries and daily practices to build positive mental wellbeing to help quieten the internal negative chatter saying your not worthy of becoming a better man.    

I know how hard the first step can be and how important it is to connect with someone who has been through similar experiences and understands you.

TIME TO CHANGE COACHING PROGRAMME

Change requires consistency, a commitment to yourself and the right support to help you let go and grow into a better version of you.

  • Before making any kind of change it helps to seek guidance from someone who’s been where you are and is where you want to be. They can help you identify your strengths and weaknesses and provide a different perspective, encouragement and bounce ideas off them.

  • Its easy to give up at the first setback, we’ve all done it. Having someone hold you accountable for your actions and commitments will motivate you to stay on track with your goals. Support from someone who understands will help to identify areas that require more of your attention and prevent procrastination and complacency.

  • Reframing is a psychological technique that involves changing the way you perceive, interpret or frame a situation, experience or thought. It's a cognitive restructuring method that helps you shift your perspective and view things in a more positive, constructive or objective way.

  • As someone who’s passionate about raising better awareness around men's mental health and wellbeing, I can offer valuable techniques and coping mechanisms to manage stress, anxiety and depression and how to give yourself what you need. Also learn how to spot signs and changes in behaviour in others, prevention tips and how to provide a safe space to discuss your feelings and concerns and difficult to have conversations.

  • Together we can set clear, achievable goals of where you want top be in 12 months time. Create a strategy to help you develop and grow into that version of yourself. Introduce various tools and methods to maintain focus and motivation to increase your chances of achieving your personal and professional goals.

  • Having reflective and honest conversations can help you gain a deeper understanding of yourself, your values, and your life purpose. Using worksheet exercises and being introduced to self-awareness techniques can help with better decision-making and living a more fulfilling life.

  • My coaching is honest, direct and non-judgemental and helps you achieve results. All sessions are online, confidential and works around your availability and pace of understanding.

    Your coaching programme is based over 3 months and designed around what you want to achieve and who you want to become.

    Including:

    9 x 50min online sessions over 3 months via zoom

    Handouts and worksheets to help reflect on progress and future reference

    Coping strategies & techniques to help maintain positive mental wellbeing

    WhatsApp `check ins’ and support to provide encouragement and guidance

    Homework to keep you engaged between sessions

    Monthly progress reviews to celebrate the wins and identify any sticking points

    The programme is £600 and a monthly payment plan is available.

What I do

As an experienced Life Coach qualified in Occupational & Social Welfare, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), Mindfulness & Wellbeing and Mental Health First Aid. I use both my professional and personal experience to coach and mentor men to become better equipped versions of themselves.

I deliver keynote talks to companies and business discussing my own lived experiences with mental health and suicide focusing on how to spot signs, where to find support, raising awareness and how to look after our mental wellbeing. 

I’m also a member of the #MakeItVisible team at www.lighthouseclub.org The Construction Industry Charity delivering talks across the UK and Ireland raising awareness around men's mental health & wellbeing and the free physical, financial and emotional support available 24/7

Connect, Share & Collaborate

Connection is the key way for sharing our experiences and raising awareness to break down stigma.

Use the WhatsApp button to enquire about my availability for talks, events, webinars or podcast collaborations.